Falling In Love All Over Again...

I always use to be adamant that I wouldn't go on holiday without the children, but after things getting the better of me the best option was for Perry and I to go on holiday together, just the two of us. You can read more about the holiday here, but I wanted to make a post about something quite amazing that happened while we was away. We haven't had any alone time together in ages, like proper alone time doing something, well I say ages but its been over a year. So this break was very well needed for each of us and also for us both as a couple together.

We held hands and went for walks along the beach as the sun was setting, we cuddled up to each other and watched the sunset whilst listening to the sea gently crashing into the stoney beach, we ran home from the supermarket in a thunderstorm absolutely giggling our heads off, we played pool and air hockey - nothing like a bit of healthy competition! We relaxed on the beach and held hands while laying in the sun, we drank cocktails together and got merry, we cuddled each other in the sea and just had so much fun. We was able to be the young couple that we are instead of just being Mum and Dad. I get it, I can see where things have gone a bit wrong, we have let the parenting roles take over a bit and we have forgot who we were together, we forgot to be ourselves and make time for one another. I cant tell you how much better we feel since having that holiday alone together, it has made our relationship so strong again and so much more fun. I was getting butterflies every time I see Perry walk towards me with a drink (obviously about him and not the cocktail ;)), and it made me realise how much the holiday was really needed. We have said now we are home we are going to make time to have proper alone time together, go out for a meal in the evening or just for the day over the weekend, maybe now and again have a night away alone together - just anything as long as its just me and him. So that we can be a couple and focus on our relationship just for a little while, no stress about the children and having to remember to pack the 100s of items you need to go out for the day, not having to deal with tantrums, not having to think for them, just 100% attention on one another. We realised how important it is for the children to see their Mummy and Daddy happy, as if we are happy and content we can be much better role models for them, we can parent them a lot better when we are working as a team, and since the holiday we have been getting on so much more, I am starting to already see a difference in the children. We kiss each other a lot more, give one another hugs and just generally show more compassion towards each other. I want both the children to see what a healthy happy relationship is like, and what better way to show them then to do it ourselves, I want them to admire our relationship in years to come, to look up to us and see how strong and happy in love we are.


We had the loveliest time away together, we came home both feeling so refreshed and relaxed, we smiled every time we made eye contact, we held hands all the time instead of one of us pushing a pram. It made me appreciate everything so much, how much this amazing man does for me and our family, how much I love him and cant wait to marry him, how happy he makes me and how we can have such a good time together, we just need to remember to keep it up at home and not forget 'us'. We need to do it for us and for the children too, they are much happier when Mum and Dad are happier. The holiday was like going back in time a little to life before the children, but we just appreciated the lie ins a lot more and how easy it was to just go on a last minute holiday and travel without them both. I have changed my mind and think that parents going away for a break isn't too bad after all, it has helped us so much and in some ways saved us too. That week away in Greece was magical..
..We basically fell in love with each other all over again.

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4 comments :

  1. Lovely post. I totally understand how you feel with the parenting role taking over. We always try to have at least 1 night a month where we have a date night. Even if we just go get ice cream and sit at the beach. It helps a lot!!
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  2. I think sometimes you just need time away from children to focus on a relationship. It sounds like you had a fantastic time and well deserved. Thanks for linking up #bestandworst

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